Why It’s Better to Not be in Too Much Love: 

“Humans were not designed by natural selection to coexist in niceness and matrimonial bliss. They were designed for individual survival and genetic reproduction.” -David Buss, Psychologist

Of course, if a happy marriage was easy to achieve, we’d have a much lower divorce rate and far fewer affairs. Unfortunately, it’s much easier to fall in love than it is to stay in love. 

One researcher has found that the altered brain chemistry of falling in love lasts roughly six to eight months. Others have found that it takes two to three years for the feeling of infatuation (intense passion) to fade to feelings of neutrality - not mild attraction, but neutrality! (no feelings of attraction)

Beware of Expectations:

The biggest problem for many married couples today is the enormous expectations with various social roles - best friend, closest kin relationship, sexual playmate, economic partner…etc. 

The more committed we become to the narrow idea that marriage should be the source of most of our happiness, the more dissatisfied we inevitably become with the relationship itself. At the very least, we need to recognize that marriage is not a solution to all of life’s problems. 

The Blunt Truth (The PAIR Project): 

• Based on Psychologist Ted Huston’s 15-year long experiment of 168 newlyweds (The University of Texas), the first two years of marriage tend to reveal whether or not you are going to be happy with your spouse.
• He also found that many newlyweds are not as blissfully in love when they marry. It is impossible to maintain the feelings of romantic ecstasy over time (chart). 
• Forget about having a baby to solve your problems. The birth of a child does not change how a couple feels about each other. 
• Conflict itself is not a sign of trouble - The loss of affection is the great predictor of divorce. 
• If you feel that you can just look at a couple and predict with great accuracy whether or not they will stay together, you are deluded.
• The project also confirms what numerous other studies have suggested - Men with feminine traits make better husbands.

Possible Solution: 

If you want your passion to burn as brightly after forty years as it does today, there is one possible solution - more sex. A survey of 16,000 American couples found that those who had the most sex were the happiest. 

With our culture today, we tend to seek too much of being in love, instead of just the importance of loving.

Source: ”Decoding Love” by Andrew Trees

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Questions & answers to the science behind sex, love, and attraction

Why do people seem more attractive when you are gazing into their eyes?

In an experiment, Psychologist Arthur Aron, put together opposite-sex students in a room & asked them to reveal personal details of their lives to each other (embarrassing moments, parent’s death…etc) while locking eyes for four minutes. Later, Aron quizzed the students about their partners. Deeply attracted, most said. So deeply, that two strangers allegedly married 6 months later. 

Evidently, you reach the heart through the eyes. Gazing produces a feel-good neurotransmitter called dopamine, which is associated with passion and addiction. It’s no wonder that professional actors whose characters are in love often fall in love with each other on set (such as Brad & Angie from Mr. & Mrs. Smith [2005]). Your neural reward circuits fire up, and you feel the way you act. 

Thanks to a shot of adrenaline, your palms sweat, your breathing gets shallow, your skin feels hot, and your pupils dilate. This feeling comes from your amygdala, the center of your brain.  

The most fascinating theory about eye gaze is that just the act of doing it can enhance, or even initiate the feeling of love. Most of the time we think that our faces reflect what’s going on inside our heads - Psychologists call this facial feedback, and Darwin was among its first believers.

Of course, casual facial feedback works only if you’re aware of and respond to your personal bodily cues. Not everyone does; you may need to be primed by a previous emotional connection or have strong romantic beliefs. 

Try the Gaze: It takes courage to hold another’s gaze. Why not try a moment of extended eye contact? Do it with someone you already love, or, if you’re daring, try it on a date. In conversation, catch the person’s eye and hold it for a beat or two longer than you would otherwise. Look away and look back as you talk, stretching your moments of eye contact longer and longer. If you’re the type to believe that the eyes lead to the heart, here’s your chance. 

Source: (book) Jena Pincott, Science author

Source: ”Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes?” by Jena Pincott

• Our brains subconsciously process the sight of long, vibrant hair as a cue of youth and vitality. 

• Your hair is an honest record of the food you’ve eaten, the drugs you’ve taken, and the seasons you’ve weathered, the stresses and sicknesses you’ve endured, and the grooming you’ve given it.

• Flirtatious women release their scent in the air by caressing, stroking, and twirling their locks. By doing this, you will probably make your partner want to run his hands through your hair, and you’ll probably want to do the same to his.

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Face Reading (Physiognomy): Smiles and Teeth

The art of determining character or personal qualities from the features or form of the body, especially the face. 

SMILES:

• A. Natural Smile (lips relaxed, full smile, teeth, but no gums showing): You are comfortable with your sensuality, neither flaunting nor hiding it. You also feel comfortable with your own sexuality.

• B. Gums Showing (gums show in a full smile): This indicates that you believe you are desirable for what you can give and do. You may be inappropriate in how much you give, finding it difficult to accept that you are lovable for just being yourself. You try to earn love through what you give and do for others. You may be one of those people who wants to give everyone a Christmas present whether you receive one in return or not. 

• C. Stretched Tight Smile (upper lip tight across teeth): This “overly sincere” smile is a mask that hides the owner’s true agenda with an attempt to communicate an unfelt sincerity or caring. It is a deception flashed to make an impression.

• D. Pursed/Kissy Lips (lips are naturally close together when smiling): You are communicating that you want to maintain your distance. Your smile says, “I’m being polite, don’t rush me. It takes time to get to know me, but don’t stop trying”

• E. Crooked Smile (one side higher than the other): You have a practiced performance smile that is designed to make a good impression but doesn’t reflect your true feelings. You may just be “smiling for the camera.”

• F. Even Teeth (all teeth are same length): You have a logical approach and learn life’s lessons quickly. You make decisions with poise and self-confidence. (America’s obsession with straight teeth pays off)

• G. Gap Between Front Teeth (space b/t teeth): You are willing to take risks even when you are not sure of the outcome. In fact, given a choice between playing it safe or going for it, you will choose to go for it. The larger the gap, the stronger the trait. Your friends may see you as something of a daredevil because you make intuitive decisions in the moment and don’t hide from danger. (Well, this explains my adventurous teacher who is almost always in a cast.)

• H. Big Front Teeth (much larger than other teeth): Once you finally make your mind, that’s it! You can be stubborn as a mule and someone has to show you that you are wrong before you will change your mind. You have the ability to hang on to your position when faced with opposition.

• Small Even Teeth (no image): Simply indicates a quick learner, -or- a person who may shy away from leadership positions.

• I. Crooked Teeth (especially bottom teeth): You see both sides of every issue. While you might be good at debate, you hate to be wrong, so you will often double check your facts before proceeding. Your challenge is that you hold yourself to impossibly high standards, weighing every decision. (I know a family who’s four kids are all involved in Speech and Debate… and their bottom teeth are very crooked)

• J. Buck Teeth (front teeth protrude/stick out): You have had to overcome the shyness you felt as a child when you would lean over backwards to please and try to get along with others. Your challenge is that you have had to struggle to become more outgoing. 

Click here for more: [Face Reading: Eyebrows]

While Professor Stephen Hawking was enjoying zero gravity, aides also allowed an apple to float free in the aircraft as a tribute to Sir Isaac Newton, the British physicist who discovered the laws of gravity.

Title: “Amazing 3-D Printer”

Cost of printing machine: $15,000-$20,000

Prints bicycles, flutes, tools…etc.

Source: ”Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes” By Jena Pincott

• In case you do care, in a study of 3,300 Italian men, researchers found that only height was correlated with larger penises
• Height as a predictor of penis size was also supported in the results 25,000+ men profiled in the MSNBC/Elle.com survey
• Multiple studies have not found any consistent correlation with race or ethnicity (World Health Organization)

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(Living together before you decide to marry)

Source: “Decoding Love” By Andrew Trees

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1. Boxes: desire to be constructive (synonyms: helpful, effective, practical, useful, positive)
2. 3-D Boxes: ability to see all sides of an issue
3. Triangles: one who’s mind is logical/rational, desire to see things come to a head
4. Arrows: feelings of ambition, drive, motivation
5. Aimless lines that form no shape or go in all directions: feeling undirected, without structure/purpose, irritated, frustrated
6. Stars: feelings of hopelessness, looking forward or up to things, and optimism
7. Circles: feeling passive rather than aggressive, circles are associated with sociable, talkative, and friendly, desire to be flexible and loving
8. Hearts: one who has love on their mind in most cases (obviously)
9. Flowers: flowers represent the feminine side of ourselves, a desire to see growth, nature, and reproduction
10. Several Flowers in Order: desire to see sense of family/togetherness
11. Food: need for love, desire to be filled up, of course it might indicate hunger/thirst
12. Animals: one who is sensitive to living creatures, the type of animal is a great deal about the mood of the doodler and often the type that the person wants to be (ex: tiger means desire to be courageous, snake means sneaky), 
13. Small Animals: slowness, lack of self-confidence, more introverted tendencies
14. Aggressive Animals: feeling assertive (synonyms: agressive, confident, demanding, leader, strong-willed)
15. Fun-loving Animals: one who is playful
16. Animals that move quickly: desire to get away quickly
17. Transportation Methods: -Doodles of cars, trains, boats, wagons, buses…etc., means desire to get away quickly or to reach a goal, often people who are bored with their jobs draw these
18. Houses: a warm inviting house is when one is happy with his homelife, a hazardous house is when one has negative feelings towards it
19. Tree: a tree represents our egos and our ambitions. A healthy tree (large, robust, strong, balanced, full, alive) indicates love, sex, children together. bare, droopy branches indicates depression, lack of fighting spirit.
20. People:

• Not Drawing Hands: the feeling of not being able to do things
• Not Drawing Feet: feeling of not belonging anywhere, as if you have no roots
• Face: missing parts of the face is one who feels not whole, faceless, and feeling lack
• Only Drawing the Profile (side of the face): one who doesn’t like the way they look, or feeling like you can’t draw well
• Only drawing eyes: feelings of suspicion, cautious, careful, as if you need to have eyes on all parts of your head
• Ears Only: feeling that you have to listen too much from someone

1. People who shade: are sensual (desire to please/excite your senses)
2. People who shade in existing letters: unexpressed sensuality, feeling like setting limits to oneself, not feeling adventurous/creative at the moment
3. Doodling on one’s body and/or getting tattoos: not wanting to be mainstream; needing to flaunt one’s individuality, if it’s overdone - it indicates desire to self-destruct
4. Doodle on buildings (walls), books, schoolwork…etc: antisocial feelings and behavior, desperate need to be seen and heard
5. Constantly doodling the same image over & over: feeling like one has no artistic talent
6. Doodling on whatever paper happens to be around: are people who get bored easily
7. People who like to doodle in their spare time: usually indicates artistic ability, otherwise -one who thinks that they have artistic ability
8. People who rarely/never doodle: usually express themselves through words rather than images

Source: “Handwriting Analysis; Putting It To Work For You” By Andrea McNicole

Source: ”Why Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes?” By Jena Pincott

• On average, men with low-pitched voices fathered more children. (Coren Apicella, anthropologist at Harvard University)
• Testosterone also shapes a man’s musculature and jawline, increased their sex drive, improves sperm quality, and makes better athletes and hunters (University of Paris at Naterre)
• A deep voice is basically an advertisement of testosterone

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Source: “Decoding Love” by Andrew Trees

• Evolutionary psychologists have speculated that the increase in an evolutionary attempt to maximize the advantage of looks, since those qualities are far more valued in women than men

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Aristotle spoke of dividing man into three aspects: the mind, the body, and the spirit: “Speech is the expression of ideas or thoughts or desires. Handwriting is the visible form of speech. Just as speech can have inflections of emotions, somewhere in handwriting is an expression of the emotions underlying the writer’s thoughts, ideas, or desires.”

Meaning: The size of the writing reveals whether a person is feeling socially extroverted or introverted. It also reveals your capacity for concentration. 

Note: Sometimes your size changes, look at the definitions that describe your mood. 

1. Overly Large Handwriting:

• This person demands to be seen & heard
• This writer overdoes (exaggerates) the size in compensation for an inner feeling of smallness and/or unimportance
• Obsession with attention & will go to great lengths to obtain it
• Displays obsessive tendencies by writing huge letters (to call attention on himself)

2. Large Handwriting (in general):

• Reaches out to other people
• Feeling social
• Unwilling to concentrate on small details
• Wants to be noticed by others
• This writer goes to many places
• Does not like limited territory

• Reasons Why: [Reason 1]: The desire to be big & important - “Look at me. I’m big & important. I’m impressive, & I want you to know it.” [Reason 2]: Extravagance - some large writers are flamboyant people who lean toward the lavish & luxurious lifestyle. [Reason 3]: Big planners - these people tend to see the “big picture,” they perceive matters on the grand scale who might take overwhelming projects. [Reason 4]: Showing off, these are usually fancy dressers who gesture broadly, take big steps, talk loudly, and seem to burst forth upon the scene.

3. Medium Handwriting:

• If the writing is neither “big” nor “small,” then this person is feeling normally social and who has average ability to concentrate
• There’s not that much definitions to medium, but it’s considered an ‘ideal’ size when you usually write

4. Small Handwriting:

• Small means introversion, this person is not reaching out to people expansively, instead he is holding himself tightly to a limited space -which also shows in your handwriting
• Four Reasons: [Reason 1]: Introversion - this is the tendency to direct one’s interest upon oneself rather than on external objects, people, and events. Feeling of wanting to be alone. This is shutting down stimuli, resulting in restricted movements by the hands. [Reason 2]: Concentration - in the mood to concentrate on small details, by shutting out stimuli, as your mind narrows its focus - the hand automatically limits itself. [Reason 3]: Small self-image - these people feel small in importance, shrunken self-esteem with letters that are small and weakly made. [Reason 4]: Economy - These people do not wish to waste paper, usually compulsively economical in all aspects of their life 

5. Microscopic Handwriting: 

• Extreme writing results an extreme in personality, few people write this way, they are shrinking within themselves and/or concentrating to an exaggerated degree. There is nothing in this world at the moment except for himself and his thoughts, exceptionally introverted, tuning out the entire world.
• Two Distinctions of Micro Writing: [Distinction 1]: Teeny & ‘read-able’ handwriting - This is a deep thinker, the truly deep thinker becomes intensely introverted in order to descend deep within himself and satisfy a quest for personal knowledge, Gandhi also wrote this way - it’s from hours of meditation, of being alone [Distinction 2]: Teeny & unread-able handwriting, and is distorted, it’s only when you cannot read their handwriting AT ALL - This is a disturbed person. This person is cut off from normal environmental relationships. 

Source (Book): ”Handwriting Analysis: Putting It To Work For You,” by Andrea McNichole. The author is a professor at the University of California and she also works with the FBI.