Questions & answers to the science behind sex, love, and attraction
Why do people seem more attractive when you are gazing into their eyes?
In an experiment, Psychologist Arthur Aron, put together opposite-sex students in a room & asked them to reveal personal details of their lives to each other (embarrassing moments, parent’s death…etc) while locking eyes for four minutes. Later, Aron quizzed the students about their partners. Deeply attracted, most said. So deeply, that two strangers allegedly married 6 months later.
Evidently, you reach the heart through the eyes. Gazing produces a feel-good neurotransmitter called dopamine, which is associated with passion and addiction. It’s no wonder that professional actors whose characters are in love often fall in love with each other on set (such as Brad & Angie from Mr. & Mrs. Smith ). Your neural reward circuits fire up, and you feel the way you act.
Thanks to a shot of adrenaline, your palms sweat, your breathing gets shallow, your skin feels hot, and your pupils dilate. This feeling comes from your amygdala, the center of your brain.
The most fascinating theory about eye gaze is that just the act of doing it can enhance, or even initiate the feeling of love. Most of the time we think that our faces reflect what’s going on inside our heads - Psychologists call this facial feedback, and Darwin was among its first believers.
Of course, casual facial feedback works only if you’re aware of and respond to your personal bodily cues. Not everyone does; you may need to be primed by a previous emotional connection or have strong romantic beliefs.
Try the Gaze: It takes courage to hold another’s gaze. Why not try a moment of extended eye contact? Do it with someone you already love, or, if you’re daring, try it on a date. In conversation, catch the person’s eye and hold it for a beat or two longer than you would otherwise. Look away and look back as you talk, stretching your moments of eye contact longer and longer. If you’re the type to believe that the eyes lead to the heart, here’s your chance.
Source: (book) Jena Pincott, Science author